Comments on: Victimisation http://carper-diem.com/2008/09/victimisation/ My Lamentations Sat, 10 Jan 2009 21:42:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: grumbler http://carper-diem.com/2008/09/victimisation/comment-page-1/#comment-4411 grumbler Thu, 06 Nov 2008 10:25:03 +0000 http://carper-diem.com/?p=381#comment-4411 Thankfully most of the time I am over it, but there are still triggers that end up making me feel uneasy. I think the biggest insult was the insinuation that I was responsible for the robbery! Thankfully most of the time I am over it, but there are still triggers that end up making me feel uneasy. I think the biggest insult was the insinuation that I was responsible for the robbery!

]]> By: VictimToo http://carper-diem.com/2008/09/victimisation/comment-page-1/#comment-4384 VictimToo Mon, 27 Oct 2008 19:11:24 +0000 http://carper-diem.com/?p=381#comment-4384 The manner in which you were treated by 'the system' is I suspect fairly typical, burglary is a common event for the Police to deal with. For you it is not. The burglary of your house is a traumatic and rare event, and there are many conflicting emotions associated with it. Not the least of which is the lingering fear that it could happen again. I recommend that you contact the Victim Support people as you will find that they have greater empathy and better training to help you to come to terms with what has happened. Finally I will paraphrase one of Eleanor Rooselvelt's famous quote: "Nobody can make you feel <em>victimised </em>without your consent." You have a choice whether or not you continue to be victimised by this unfortunate event. Sorry to hear of this event. The manner in which you were treated by ‘the system’ is I suspect fairly typical, burglary is a common event for the Police to deal with. For you it is not. The burglary of your house is a traumatic and rare event, and there are many conflicting emotions associated with it. Not the least of which is the lingering fear that it could happen again.

I recommend that you contact the Victim Support people as you will find that they have greater empathy and better training to help you to come to terms with what has happened.

Finally I will paraphrase one of Eleanor Rooselvelt’s famous quote: “Nobody can make you feel victimised without your consent.” You have a choice whether or not you continue to be victimised by this unfortunate event.

Sorry to hear of this event.

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